RELATED TOPICS: Temperament, Communication; Parenting Styles; Learning and Thriving 

BENEFITS: Recognize emotions and feelings, impulse control 

MATERIALS: quiet space, soothing activities, timer 

STEPS: 

1. Help your child find a spot that they feel most secure and comfortable. It could be a corner in their room or their favorite armchair. The spot should also be physically safe and appropriate for their age. 

2. Decorate the spot in a way that feels most safe and secure to your child. Together, you and your child can put (just a few) stuffed animals and books or blankets there. Avoid stimulating toys or screens. Decorate the walls if you like. Remember to ask for your child’s input. 

3. Tell them that this is a place where they can go every time when they feel sad or upset. Instead of labeling the spot as a time-out place, help your child see the place as a get-away spot for them to rest and enjoy all the things they like. 

4. Practice using the space when your child is calm, to give them practice. Then, when the next meltdown comes, suggest your child go to their cool down space to find some peace and quiet. 

5. You can also create such a spot for you at home as well. Your modeling always helps your child learn. 

Activity Source: “Jared’s Cool Out Space” by Ashlee Wilkin and Jane Nelsen

Picture Credit: hes-extraordinary.com